it can happen to anyone

Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings

Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior

Do you:

• feel afraid of your partner much of the time?

• avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?

• feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?

• believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?

• wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?

• feel emotionally numb or helpless? 

Does your partner:

• humiliate or yell at you?

• criticize you and put you down?

• treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?

• ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?

• blame you for his own abusive behavior?

• see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats

Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior

Does your partner:

• have a bad and unpredictable temper?

• hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? 

• threaten to take your children away or harm them?

• threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

• force you to have sex?

• destroy your belongings?

Does your partner:

• act excessively jealous and possessive?

• control where you go or what you do?

• keep you from seeing your friends or family?

• limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

• constantly check up on you?